Legs on the Stairs!

Moving at the speed of light that's what never happens.

Waiting for something to happen is like the worst thing on earth. You go and check, then you go back and check what you just checked because possibly you have checked so many times you may have made a mistake while checking. Am I right?

It's like waiting and watching a speck of dust in the sunlight to land on a surface nearby. It floats down, then moves left, then right then goes back up a bit then down. You try and grab it but it moves out of your reach somehow. You look away and think to yourself; 'I have better things to do with my time', but really you don't because your waiting for that THING to happen that's not happening, ever.

Time seems to move slower, the day drags on and you go to bed early that night to get the day over with so the next day will start and maybe this is the day for that THING to happen. And oh, by the way that thing is being controlled by someone somewhere in an unknown location; if they would just hurry up and do the thing that will move your thing along.
Do they know or care that you're suffering in your bed at night, trying to fall asleep but it's way to earlier and your body is not tired but you want this day to be over.

There are 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, 4 weeks in the month, 12 months in a year and the average woman lives to be 73. All of this means nothing. Nothing at all if you don't do the things that make you the most happy, not the most money or the most famous, or the most popular, but the most happy. If buying things makes you happy then you need a lot of space and a fairly decent income to support your spending habits. If fishing makes you happy then you probably need a little less than the shopper, do you get where I'm going with this? Live you own life, make your own dreams come true, do the things that make you the most happy. Time waits for no one even when we're waiting for something to happen. Every person will always be "as old as their tongue and a little bit older than their teeth" (another mother quote for you),

Today I want to thank TIME for finally making something wonderful happen.

("your welcome")

Madam E

Legs on the Stairs

The Keyhole of Life...

Imagine if this was your view of the world. The whole world viewed through a vantage point the size of the keyhole. Think about the doors that actually have a keyhole, old doors in old houses, dated, forgotten, dusty and creepy. What you would miss. The opinions you would form from your narrowed view on life. And the endless hours you would waste going back to the hole time and time again to try and see more, craving more but alas, the keyhole can only reveal so much.

I can usually spot a 'keyholer' a mile away. Their view of the world is so narrow they have little to say that doesn't involve 'I or Me' in almost every sentence. They are starved for attention, lack tact and finesse and for some strange reason keyholers spend countless hours thinking about what others are doing, saying, having, and being. Keyholers live a shallow, boring and wishful life.

A dreamworld of their own making. The mind begins to take the narrow view from the hole of what others are doing and create new and one-sided fantasy from the images from the hole. Lets face it if you don't really know the untrained mind will make something up.

Are you a keyhole person? You say no, but are you sure? Have you ever taken for granted that you have all the facts when the reality is you couldn't possibly because you haven't gathered any?
Think about all the movie scenes over the decades that have depicted someone peeping through a keyhole and then taking what they've seen as the whole story and passing it off as fact. It happens in real life. Sadly it's probably happening right now.

Be a mountaineer. Mountaineers climb to some pretty high points and when they get there they turn in a 360 degree circle to see everything, they turn slowly and purposefully. Mountaineers are planners and doers. The trip, the gear, the timing, the endurance. Be in awe of the world around you, enjoy this life to the fullest. Strive to be and know the truth. Help those who are climbing up behind you to get there too. Then it will be just clean open air for you...

Seek out the words of  Earl Nightingale: "You become what you think about". Google him, YouTube him, he really understands. And when you encounter your next keyholer, and you will, remember this Blog, go back and re-listen to Earl, climb an invisible mountain in your mind if a real one is out of reach. Stay true to your beliefs; that it's better to be in the open air than stuck behind a door with a keyhole.

Madam E.

Legs on the Stairs

Here's a key...

It can and will open any door to your dream home. But, here's the catch, it will only work once. Be careful with your key..... it's very special and precious.

If this were true and this key really only worked in one door how would you choose. How to know? Here's my suggestion, make a plan. We've all heard this before, a plan, a plan, a plan.

Begin with the Who What Where & How. Who's going to live in the home, What things does the home have to have, Where is the best location for the home and How much can I spend on the home.

Who's going to live there-  # bedrooms, driveway size for x number of cars, and for how long are these people staying. If it's just you and a partner possibly a one bedroom with a den condo would suit you. If you have a tribe then it's the large single family home with basement bedrooms that could suffice.

What things does the house have to have- we entertain large groups we need a separate dining room. We are green thumbs, the Lot has to have room for a garden and border gardens. I can't do stairs so a bungalow with a main floor laundry area is a must.

Where is the best location- my son is attending University and it would be more cost effective if the property was on a bus route. I'm a commuter I want to be near the highway but not too close as to hear the noise. I don't think I could live in the inner city there's just too much going on all the time.

How much should I spend- this is probably the easiest and the hardest piece of the puzzle to wrap our heads around. If there are two of you contributing to the purchase price why not buy a home that the mortgage payments per month could be carried on just one salary. What if everyone did this? The financial squeamishness; the worries; the pressures would be less. Talk to your trusted banking specialist but DON'T be talked into something that at the time seems to make sense but really is overextending you.

I'm not a Realtor, (but Madam N is) I'm not a financial planner, I'm not a mortgage broker. I'm a realist. I tell my kids; "walk through life with your debt right in front of you". Pay your credit cards off, put a little bit of cash in your wallet, $40 bucks on payday, fill your gas tank full on payday as well.  Try and stay away from your debit card, after a while it gets easier.

Then when it's time to make a big decision like buying a home or a car your mind is already trained to watch for the signs of overextending itself.

"You can only sleep in one bed and use one bathroom at a time". "More closets means more room for junk". "I only need one hook to hang my hat". "The bigger the house the more there is to clean". These were all phrases my mother used to say, and again she was right in her quirky kind of way.

Make a plan...

Madam E